I’m resting.
I’m owning that this year has been exhausting.
I’m acknowledging that the direction of our country is disconcerting and I need time to regroup before I put together a plan of action for how I will do my part.
This year (so far) in business has been exciting and meaningful – and there’s also been a lot of change and program launches and growth.
My hunger for a recharge is stronger now than in the past few summers.
So I’m listening.
I’m not launching any new programs. (She says with a deep exhale.)
I’m focused on my 1:1 clients, sharing the Elevator Pitch beauty of my Summer Bundle, wrapping up powerfully with my current cohort of Career Command Four-Month Shift and guiding my three Chief groups through their leadership growth.
Instead of launching new programs, I’m exercising, meeting friends and colleagues for many coffees, seeing art and theater and all of NYC’s offerings I forget to embrace when I’m too busy and overwhelmed.
I’m leaning into all that energizes me.
And I’m releasing the shame that naturally comes up from the thoughts and fears that tell me - You’re not doing enough! Do. Do. Do.
I’ve done a lot. I’m doing enough. And I will do more when I’ve rested.
How will you be resting this summer? How will you acknowledge all that you’ve accomplished in an intense moment in time? How will you listen to your hunger and release your shame–in whatever flavor it appears right now?
If you have been in a rage since Friday, I see you and I’m right there with you. There’s no minimizing how grave a situation this truly is. Our constitutional rights, our bodily autonomy, our complete personhood have been erased under the law of this country.
For the past few days, I could barely look my daughters in the eyes without crying, knowing that together we will be fighting for access to safe abortion care for many years to come.
Yet to quote our inspiring Rabbi Rachel Timoner at Congregation Beth Elohim in Brooklyn…“Here’s the thing I know. * I’m going to say something surprising. * We are winning. It does not feel like it today. Of course it doesn’t. But girls and women and female-identified people today are more certain about our equality than we ever have been in history. We know that gender has nothing to do with ability or promise. We know -- girls today know -- without a doubt that we are capable of anything we set our minds to. No one – no court, no law – can make us go back. This I know. We are fierce, we are determined, and we are powerful. There is no stopping the girls and women and female-identified people of these generations and those who will follow us. We will be completely and entirely equal. The next wave of the movement begins now.”
This rings as truth in my bones and through every cell of my being. I needed to hear it last Saturday and I know I will read it often. I’ve gathered some resources for next steps for all of us. I am here to listen. To hear your stories. To be a community in grief and in action.
Listen (podcasts)
The Daily: Inside Four Abortion Clinics the Day Roe Ended
UNDISTRACTED with Brittany Packnett Cunningham: The Roe v. Wade News—and Finding Hope
Ezra Klein Show: The Dobbs Decision Isn’t Just About Abortion. It’s About Power.
Strict Scrutiny: Roe is dead. Now what? (For those who want to get into the details of the decision and the dissent. PSA - the more you know, the worse it gets so proceed with caution.)
Read
How to Show up For Abortion Access: A guide to actions, messaging and a long list of ways to engage from Alison Turkos
Don’t Ban Equality: See where your potential or current employer stands in advocating for equity and women’s healthcare.
Citizens No More: What the reversal of Roe means for women’s work
Your State Will Not Save You: Anne Helen Peterson, writer of the substack, Culture Study, shares the most effective way forward which will not be easy and will be a longterm steady approach to regaining our rights to own our healthcare decisions.
Give
Local Abortion Funds in every state
Reproductive justice organizations: National Black Women’s Reproductive Justice Agenda and National Latina Institute for Reproductive Justice, so that funds will go directly to the most impacted communities.
Act
Tell Joe Biden: Open Abortion Clinics on Federal Lands
The Women’s March offers several ways to engage including marching in one of the SUMMER OF RAGE (aptly named!) protests across the country, joining a local community circle or working to attack misinformation and trolling on social media.
ACLU: Sign up to be a defender of abortion rights. You will receive alerts about volunteer opportunities to support the cause.
I will keep you updated on my actions and I would love for you to continue to send me yours that need to be amplified or shared.
In a panel I led last week there were many job seekers asking…What do I do first?
Do I just start researching and applying to roles?
Do I work on my resume?
Do I reach out to people I don’t know on LinkedIn?
In my Career Command Framework, I like to start with one question that my clients often can’t answer in the beginning of our work - What do you want?
Let’s forget about all of the recruiters calling you, all the rabbit holes you’ve gone down researching a thousand roles. The boring ones you know you can do and all of the good on paper jobs that our culture holds up as the brass ring.
Instead, we always start with YOU. Honoring who you are without apology.
In my three-part framework, we start with…
INNER CLARITY: Finding the inner clarity to understand your terms and what you want next.
Then move to…
AUTHENTIC WORDS: Crafting the authentic words to describe you, your experience and why you’re the right fit for this energizing role.
And complete our work with…
INTENTIONAL ACTION: Taking intentional action to strategically use the time you have, activate your network and go after that next role with a focused roadmap.
Here's a look at the full Framework:
I have only 3 spots left for 1:1 Coaching this summer – so if this resonates, grab one of them now!
Feel free to set up a Clarity Call so we can discuss what YOU want next and my framework for helping you get there.
If you’ve talked to me for more than 15 minutes recently, you know that this school year we applied for both middle and high school for my daughters in New York City. And yes, for those of you following along outside of the anomaly that is NYC, in this city, you apply for public school.
Beyond the bureaucracy and delays and more delays, the process involved an uncomfortable amount of WAITING.
When I wrote this it was June 6th and I still didn’t know where my 14 year old would go to high school next year. We started navigating this process in May of 2021.
That’s one long ass time.
Thankfully, now the wait is over (and there was good news) but I had to get creative with managing through the discomfort. It made me feel a kinship with my clients who are living through the tortuous waiting inherent to the job search.
For those of us who lean towards doing and more doing until we get the result we want – this can be a tricky time.
So, I’m NOT going to say – use this as a time to learn. I would slap me if I said this to myself during that painful time.
Instead, when I'm in that waiting mode and I KNOW I'm going to keep "doing" (because that's who I am)...I’m going to focus that "doing" on taking care of me.
I have compassion for myself since I’m not working at my typical pace.
I give myself extra time for walks in the park.
I curse more.
I connect with people who energize me.
I say no, a lot.
I listen to more music than podcasts. I need vibes, not content.
What are the ways that you can take action to take care of yourself through the waiting?
It’s different for everyone and I like to make a plan with my clients for how they’re going to keep their energy and their spirits up while there is so much that’s out of their control.
Comment with your Waiting Plan so I know you’re taking care of yourself during shitty limbo (and maybe you’ll give me a few ideas for my next round of waiting).
At the heart of "The Great Resignation" employees across the country are realizing they have agency in their careers.
They’re saying…
I will no longer tolerate this toxic culture.
I want to learn something new.
I want to be inspired by my leadership team.
One response to this agency, for some, has been to go out and find that next role that is truly on their terms.
And yet there also is another option.
When I polled my LinkedIn audience about what type of professional development they were seeking from their companies, far and away, the most popular response was 1:1 Coaching.
Coaching is not only a tool to figure out your next step. It’s also incredibly powerful in helping you understand the leader you are now and the one you want to be.
It’s a way to help you work through the impostor syndrome before the big presentation.
Garner the courage to have the tough conversation with your team.
Take on the bigger role after you’ve been tapped on the shoulder.
If the leadership at your organization is working hard to keep you - especially if your colleagues are leaving the organization - leverage this moment to claim your agency and ask for the support you want.
And if you’re a leader looking to retain employees on your team, give them the support that will help them feel seen and appreciated - even if it means looking outside of your organization for support.
This could look like group facilitated training or seminars, mentorship, team-focused professional development, drop in coaching sessions with an accredited coach (like me!) or good, old fashioned one-on-one individualized coaching.
Get in touch if you'd like to workshop how to go about asking for or instigating this type of support for yourself or your team!
We’re finally settling into true spring in Brooklyn–and it does feel like new beginnings and possibilities are beginning to bloom.
One of these exciting and beautiful seedlings on the horizon is a collab with Park Slope Parents on a Career Transition panel.
We’re going to share stories of five women who made BIG career moves during the pandemic.
Some moved into new roles, some built thriving portfolio careers where they work on multiple projects of their choosing, and one stepped into a new level of leadership within her current role – which inevitably changed the kind of work, respect and opportunities she attracts.
When I reached out to former clients to participate in the panel, they got back to me within 24 hours with an immediate yes. They would love to share their stories to help other women move through this (resilience-building) process!
First, I thought, the women in my community are powerful and supportive and so generous to share their stories.
And next, I realized - DAMN - I’ve helped a lot of women this year to move through significant internal and external obstacles and claim careers based on their desires. I’m beyond proud of this work.
If you’re ready to make some big moves in your career, I currently have two 1:1 coaching spots left.
As a reminder, when you sign up for a Private 1:1 Coaching Package, you get:
Six virtual 60-minute sessions
Access to my entire Career Pathing Framework (videos and exercises that lead you through a step-by-step process)
A resume and LinkedIn Profile audit and
Email support throughout the 3 months we will work together
Here’s the link to learn more about Private Coaching - or if you're ready to jump in, you can purchase a package HERE.
And for those of you who have worked with me in the past and want a tune-up session, I’m now offering those, as well. You can keep this link handy and any time you need your tune-up, you can purchase a one-time session and schedule a time that works for you HERE.
It’s been a tough week. As many in my community have been sharing, I’m experiencing SO MANY FEELINGS in response to the leak of the draft opinion that will most likely overturn Roe v Wade.
Anger: When I hear our government in 2022 wants to remain purist and true to a document that was written by all white men and considered slavery, rape and women’s full on subservience to men as law.
Hopelessness: When I stand alongside women leaders in powerful organizations, helping them find their voices and confidence–knowing that at the most primal level–they will never have power and influence when a minority contingent in our country controls their healthcare choices and decisions about their bodies.
Fear: When I think about all of the individuals who will not be able to receive the care they need. Who cannot afford to travel to states where abortion will be legal. Who will be forced to give birth against their will - even under the worst of circumstances, even when it is to their own detriment.
Shame: When I think about how I have taken this right to make my own healthcare choices for granted. I know, it sounds like it should be the baseline of what is available to all humans. 50 years of precedent gave me a false sense of safety that this issue was settled. I haven't done enough and I understand that now.
What I am doing next is still evolving and yet I wanted to share a few things with you as the plan comes together.
Personally…
I’m giving myself a little extra space. Saying no to things that I feel I can’t be present for right now. Extra time to write and feel my feelings.
I’m being honest with my people about where I’m at and not pretending everything is ok. It’s not.
I’m showing up for my daughters and the feelings that they’re having. I’m modeling that it’s ok to cry and to be afraid and to be really fucking angry.
Professionally…
I’m holding space for my clients who are figuring out how to be there for their teams in an authentic and human way.
I’m tapping into communities of powerful organizers and leaders who are building ways forward. I’m so grateful to be a part of Chief in this moment and to be connected with many female leaders of influence and power so I can learn how I can use my skills to be most effective.
I’m seeking pro bono clients: those who are running for local office who want to work on messaging, public speaking and navigating impostor syndrome. I worked with several candidates in the 2018 midterms and I’m currently working with an impressive and energized candidate running for state house in Texas.
So, my asks…
If you know of candidates running for local office looking for support, send them my way.
If you are part of working groups, protests, campaigns or other actions to impact state legislation to maintain access to safe abortions–please let me know. We can discuss ways I can use my platform to support your efforts.
I appreciate you and your being a part of this community. Let’s be here for each other. Let’s do good work together. Let’s protect our rights to be in charge of our own bodies and healthcare decisions.
These choices directly impact the kinds of lives, careers and influence we’re able to have–and I’m here to advocate for you to have a life and a career–ON YOUR TERMS.
I'm noticing a trend among the women in my orbit - the "safe" path isn't cutting it anymore.
After years, sometimes decades, of playing it safe in their careers, I'm witnessing my coaching clients take risks - from army crawling their way through the ranks at unforgiving companies to courageously leaping into the unknowns of a career transition - these women are forces to be reckoned with.
The pandemic has given us all a renewed sense of urgency, because nothing is promised - even the "safe" path could slip out from under us, so why not be bold?
Is it time to find clarity on your terms, your priorities, and freedom from the shame that comes from feeling stuck or lost in your career?
Are you seeking alignment between your gifts and the impact you want to have on the world?
What I know is this...
Our careers can hold a deep invitation for richer fulfillment - where we can grow and expand into our truest versions, where we feel accomplished and satisfied by our contributions, acknowledged for our gifts, where we get to play, experiment, and shine.
Whether you’re getting that nudge for something new, you’re already exploring something new, OR you're deep into the nuts and bolts of a job search that’s not yet clicking, our work together can guide you through the change in front of you.
For a limited time, I'm opening my calendar up for Single Coaching Sessions - typically only available to prior clients, this virtual 60-minute one-time session is for you to get a quick hit of individualized support and motivation to find the confidence to focus on what’s important to YOU.
You can reserve your Single Coaching Session HERE.
Reach out today and let's take the next step on your path together.