Let's Change the Change Conversation

I was talking to a friend who was leaving his company of ten years for a new exciting gig.

He was recruited for the new role and yet was thoughtful about whether it was the right move for him and his family in this moment.

After a thorough review, he actively chose...

Uncertainty. Trust. Curiosity.

He chose his intuition and hunger to learn above a need for sameness and safety.

He chose adventure, possibilities, growth, a yearning to broaden his impact, a call to do the work he was meant to do.

This is the perspective of change that often is lost in job searches and career transitions.

Instead, we focus on failure. We find a way to make ourselves wrong.

I’m no longer happy in my role AND I’m supposed to have this figured out by now.

It’s my fault that I don’t love my "good on paper" job.

My boss is being an asshole because of the mistakes I’m making.

We must change the change conversation right now.

Moving towards change is moving towards your needs, your priorities. It’s choosing you.

Whether it’s in my 1:1 Coaching or Career Command Membership—this is the work I’m here to do.

I will help you choose you.

I create a safe space where we honor the self-respect it takes to make a change while providing the career-pathing tools to go after what you want—all within a community of women who are also choosing themselves.

If you’re ready to re-think your next change, to drop the shame and explore what’s possible when you trust yourself—sign up for a 30-min complimentary call.

Let’s work together to help you find the freedom and confidence on the other side of choosing you.

Drawing Boundaries in Uncharted Territory

Are you finding it as exhausting as I am to emerge from your cocoon and be in the world with other humans again?

I’m drawing boundaries in places I didn’t know you could have them because I must protect my energy at all costs. I don’t have a lot of it right now. And there’s a world of women who need help with their careers. Stat.

I’m hungry to get to work AND I must reconnect in a way that feels energizing for me.

My approach is to be:

✔️ Honest – I’m going to be me, and I don’t have the time or desire to be anything but.

✔️ Imperfect – I can’t pretend that I remember all the subtleties of living in the collective. How quickly we forget!

✔️ Curious – Truly being in the moment and learning about that person in front of me. I'm a nerd when it comes to understanding new people.

✔️ Boundaried – Saying no to intro’s and connections that feel like should’s. No thank you.

What does it look like for you?

If you feel like you need to shift how you’re re-engaging or you need a kick in the butt to get out there at all, come learn and be you with us!

Our next Career Command Networking Event is on the 24th at 12pm ET, so, if you...

• Identify as female or non-binary

• Are hoping to make a career transition in the next year

• Or you're currently bumbling about social gatherings like you forgot how to be in the world. I see you, friend.

Register at rachelbgarrett.com/networking

My 3 Truths About Transitions

Most of the women in my Career Command Membership, 1:1 coaching programs and in my community in general are in a spectrum of career transitions. They range from feeling the tug that they should do something different to actively working a job search to returning to careers after taking time to care for families.

When I dive into conversations with them, there’s one feeling that comes up again and again.

Shame.

They think:

I should be farther along by this point in my life and career.

There’s something wrong with me for not having “the answer” yet.

Everybody else has found their own perfect path.

I’m defective because I can’t make my current path work.

When in reality, they’re on the edge of discovering their power.

Change is the stand you take for yourself. The acknowledgment that you are worth having something different. The thing you truly want.

Here are the 3 Truths About Transitions I share with clients so they can move out of the shame that is keeping them stuck and into the possibilities that are waiting for them.

1. Every single fulfilling career includes transitions.
It’s as simple as that. Change is a constant variable in life so it makes sense that careers would be rife with twists and turns to match it. Having a fulfilling career does not mean every moment is fun or easy. Careers that feel true to who you are, include taking risks, figuring out the hard parts, learning, growing, and building the resilience skills to weather the next change. Because it will be upon you before you know it!

2. Your transition means you are advocating for yourself (if you make it mean that.)
Whether you chose this transition or you’re reacting to a life moment, this is your opportunity to ask yourself, “What do I want?” It’s your time to resist the traditional formulas we are sold that promise success if we remain on one path. You can share this moment with confidence and pride in the agency you have over your life, or you can stay in shame. The story you tell about your transition is your choice.

3. Most (and not all) of your people will support you during your transition.
Some of your people will support you in your transition and some won’t. A few of the people who don’t support you are not actually your people. Recognize that and act accordingly. While others who don’t support you truly do love you but can’t get around their own fear. There’s no need to cut them out completely but know that you don’t need to share the updates on your transition with these people. Conversely, you MUST talk to your advocates, your supporters, your ride or die people through this moment. You need them and the more you can share with them, the more they can help you!

When you’re living these truths during a moment of change, know that the quickest way out of shame is seeing for yourself that you are not alone. The women in my Career Command Membership are floored when they realize—wow—all of these ambitious, inspiring women are going through what I am, and I would NEVER think the things about them that I’m currently thinking about myself. Choose power during this change and find the people who will help you continue to fuel it in yourself.

Choosing Rest when the Spin Cycle of Life Happens

April and May came in and rattled me around like a hurricane.

I launched a membership I’d been nurturing for months.

My Uncle Ray, for whom I’d been caring for four years, finally succumbed to his multiple diseases, and left our world.

My 13-year-old daughter celebrated a zoom Bat Mitzvah in which she read the Torah powerfully in the presence of 200+ people who love and support her.

We packed up our home and left for (what we hope will be) a month of repairs.

I observed the 35th anniversary of my parents’ tragic car accident. I was nearly 12 when they passed.

As I closed out this season of life happening all at once, I was tired. I reminded myself that it’s not always like this. Though when you’re in one of these spin cycles it’s easy to think this is simply the new pace. I must learn to adjust. I must armor up and be ready.

Instead of believing those thoughts, I actively chose to disrupt the speed and the busyness and the need to figure out all of my next moves.

I chose rest.

I chose quiet.

I chose compassion.

I chose grace.

I chose to sit in uncertainty just a little while longer knowing that I didn’t need to have all the answers.

Practically speaking, that means pushing off a funeral for Uncle Ray until we are ready in the summer or fall.

It means growing my Career Command membership slowly so I can truly take in the power and meaning and magic that lives within the community I’ve built.

It means continuing to create the kind of family where both at once I’m proud of the stable, inclusive and loving home I offer up to my kids AND also I’m sad for my inner 12-year-old who didn’t have those things. How beautiful that the joy in the family I’ve created has offered a direct path to my own healing that still longs to happen.

Part of the healing is knowing I don’t need to be fixed. I need to be loved. That is a practice I can offer myself with the people I choose, the life I design, the communities I serve and the honesty of my words.