Unlike most working mothers, my mornings are very flexible. My work-day officially starts after dropping my girls off at school, so I do that shift almost every morning. That said, my afternoons are chock-full with sessions, workshops, networking meetings and whatever other strange errands come with running your own business.
For a neighbor and friend who has an intense full-time job (and is getting her PhD to boot) mornings are a bit of a shit show. 8 am meetings for both parents and frequent travel makes getting everyone dressed, out the door and to their respective places of learning a major triumph.
That’s where I come in. When I get a text the night before asking to take her kids to school the next morning, I almost always say yes. Something so easy for me can make the odd shaped puzzle pieces of my friend’s morning line up. And when I have an afternoon childcare coverage gap and I’m off to give a workshop on Mastering The Work-Life Juggle (walking the talk, people), she’s always on it—as are all of the other moms in what feels like my underground working mom network.
In response to one of my clients who recently said, "I just don’t know how working parents in New York City do it. How is this all possible?"
When we can take your kids, your dog, pick up something at the store for your sick family member—we do it.
When we can make life easier for you and help you simplify even a bit—we do it.
When we can help you feel like we got your back, you’re not alone and we are invested in your success—we do it.
And we know you would and you do—do it for us too.
It is an unspoken, but tangible agreement among us. Appreciation comes with happy kids who think they’re simply having another playdate, texts with fist bump emojis, the occasional bottle of wine, a continuing exchange of support and most importantly, an honoring of this agreement—this underground mom team—with the pursuit of our own successes and dreams.
Generosity with my time was not always a strength of mine. I guarded my hours with an iron fist, but I’ve learned that not only does helping feel good, but it’s also aligned with my mission of getting more women into positions of power. There is a knowing that by taking on some of the load where we can, we are fueling the progress, the power shift and the equity we want to see. In the process of lifting my mom team up, I’m building community and connection with people who are also going beyond what they thought was possible—which leaves this feminist mom and coach with a full heart.